Friday, June 12, 2009
**EDIT: Prednisone & Stuck In The Victim Role
**EDIT: I just started taking my two week run of prednisone. I am on 10mg once daily for the 14 days. No biggie. :-) I just hope it doesn't make me feel as bad as those first two patches!
Illness, especially chronic pain, has an uncanny way of making individuals feel hopeless and out of control, and if you are isolated and without a solid support system, it is understandable... for a certain amount of time...
Although many of us did not do anything willingly or choose to be in the sick role, there are a number of individuals with disease who choose to stay put, rather stubbornly, in the victim role, rendering themselves helpless and draining the energy of those who surround them. If you transform yourself momentarily into a detective and look back into their past years, you will see a pattern of playing the victim in several areas of these individuals' lives. These persons often believe they have no control over their lives and often wait for someone to rescue them rather than do the work required to succeed themselves, but in believing they are powerless, they have truly become powerless. This negative outlook often, understandably so, drives away whatever support system, if any, that was in place and becomes a breeding ground for clinical depression and substance abuse.
The truth is, each of us has access to an incredible amount of power, wealth, success, and creative energy that we can choose to tap into and live our lives on purpose, or we can choose to ignore and stay stagnant in a role that becomes very lonely and predictable into the bitter end. Only us as individuals can convince ourselves, and then continue to believe, that our inner and outer resources are lacking, and in doing so, we become powerless. Some choose to stay in this role because negativity is predictable and acknowledging that we each have the power to create the lives we desire means these individuals have to put in some constantly avoided effort. This means they have to change, and change ain't easy!
Our outer worlds are reflections of and identical to our inner worlds, which is a powerful statement considering only we have control over what our inner worlds look like.