The first goal is to learn to identify negative, irrational, and unproductive thoughts, because believe it or not, many individuals are unaware that what they are saying, thinking, and doing are negative and unproductive ways to engage the world, even creating disease.
The second goal is to learn the tools to cope with and deconstruct these thoughts, because it is not enough to only gain awareness of your negative thinking patterns – that does not equal change.
The third goal is to replace the identified and deconstructed thoughts with positive, rational, and productive thoughts, which can be a real challenge in the beginning.
The fourth goal is to PRACTICE. DAY AND NIGHT. 1,000 TIMES A DAY. Until it becomes second nature and the new, productive, HEALTHY way that you engage the world. What we truly desire in life, we will create. Practice!
I am living proof that with this way of viewing and engaging the world, you can THRIVE with a debilitating disease, like RSD/CRPS. It took me a good year of practice before it became habit and second nature, but it is totally worth the time and effort.
Let’s practice:
Stressor: PAIN.
Distorted Thought: “I am so angry that this happened to me. My life is over.”
Realistic Thought: “I am not my pain. I have so many great talents, and I am going to work toward a goal I can achieve.”
Stressor: Physical Limitations.
Distorted Thought: “I hate that I can’t run anymore. I can’t do anything.”
Realistic Thought: “Just because I can’t run doesn’t mean that I have zero options. There are plenty of things I can still do, and I should be thankful for and focus on those.”
The way that you choose to view the world has a great impact on your health. You have two options -- you can choose to view it negatively or positively, and positively is the way to go. Negative emotions have a biological impact. Any questions?
Here are some fun photos from the last few days:
HAPPY REFRAMING (HEALING)!!!!!


12 comments:
Hi there! I'm so glad you stopped by my blog! It's nice to meet you. That cake was a hit with everyone at the party -- I definitely recommend the flavor combo. :) I love this post, especially since I intend to go to grad school for counseling psych to become an eating disorders counselor. What are you going to grad school for?
oh my gosh you are beautiful!! i cannot wait to read more of your blog girl!
Thank you ktbwood! That is so sweet!
Tammy, I replied on your blog :-)
What a great post love!! I love reading inspirational blogs.
I can't wait to connect more!!
XXOO
Kris
PS. you and you fam are so cute :)
Thanks for stopping by my blog. Glad we both share a sweet tooth ;) Love your family photos. Happy Holidays!
Hey Maria! You are stunning and your family's gorrrgeous! Thanks for popping by my blog. I actually went to read up a little about RSD to understand it a bit better, so thank you for opening my eyes to what you are going through.
You are such a strong, brave woman and definitely a wonderful inspiration! I look forward to learning more about you and your struggles and victories through your blog!!
xx
Hi
I just found your blog. It really speaks to me. Not really the same way. Not exactly same situation, but there are similar lines here. Currently going through a very difficult time. You might be nice to "talk" to :)
This is wonderful! I definitely am all about the power of positive thinking. I love this quote by Abraham Lincoln: "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
I am really working hard on this. It's very easy for me to get frustrated when I can't do thing that I used to do. My old way of dealing was to get really mad or just do it anyway and then get sick. Now when my family was talking of skiing tomorrow, I decided I'd just be happy with some light shopping and be glad if I didn't have to stay in bed all day. It's really hard not to let your mind make a bad situation even worse by beating up on yourself. My therapist is really great with helping me with this. Thanks for a great post.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this post. It speaks to my soul. I have been really struggling with negative, ugly thoughts, and as a result have been hating life. I do NOT need to live this way. I plan on attending psychotherapy soon and will talk to him about CBT. You are such a huge help and inspiration. Thank you Maria!
Mary, thank you so much for reading and for your wonderful comments. I am so glad this post has helped you. You deserve to live a happy, fulfilling life.
Fantastic post!! I have been working hard to try and dispell a lot of 'thought viruses' lately...it can get tough some times! But it's definitely worth the work.
Thanks for the extra motivation ;)
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