Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Cuteness Overload AGAIN! + Why Traditional Psychotherapy May Not Be Enough

Hi, Healers! I hope you all enjoyed your holiday weekends. I am going to share some cute pictures with you before Lynn's essay. I'll update you on my life in my next post.


Eating some lunch before a swim:


Sporting her new one piece:



Swimming all by herself:





Best buds:



Addie and daddy:






 It may be surprising that I titled this post "Why Traditional Psychotherapy May Not Be Enough" as someone who is in the mental health field, but my holistic views as a social worker and person who has been through physical and mental illness turns me in this direction. Enjoy this essay by Lynn as she elaborates more on the topics.


The Importance of True Healing

I was reminded today of why it is so important to do true healing at some point in ones life. Many people believe that therapy and coming to terms with some issue in their lives is enough. I do not.

I believe that therapy can help us identify problems and issues. In other words this process may uncover and discover problems within; however, I am not convinced that therapy helps us rid (discard) ourselves of the negative energy those issues carry with them. If we do not release this energy, it continues to bombard our bodies with negative destruction over and over again, eventually causing the body to enter a state of “dis-ease”.

I have spoken with and worked with so many people who have had years of therapy and while many of them are able to freely express themselves and the problems they have identified and worked on, they continue to hold the dark energy of those problems within their spirits and bodies. Ultimately, they have not healed the issue; rather, they have only found a place for it that is emotionally manageable. When a mind, body and spirit (as one) have not fully healed something, it can continue to fester and attract more negativity to itself, eventually causing illness. This is clearly something that must be avoided.

Energy work and spiritual healing, when done correctly, guides a person towards completely uncovering, discovering and discarding those problems, beliefs and issues that have found their way into our subconscious and conscious minds over time. The person can be walked through a process of releasing not only the problem but the power or energy that problem holds within the person's body, mind and spirit.

Additionally, by seeing all problems or issues as spiritual lessons or teachings, the person is often able to turn something that has been a lifelong negative into a true positive, learning so much from the experience that they never again need face that same issue again! This is true enlightenment and a skill that once learned can be used effectively towards healing future problems. I cannot think of anything more empowering that being able to take something that has the potential to destroy, remove its power and turn it on its head so that it becomes a gift of growth and perhaps inspiration!

I was having a discussion (unfortunately only by email) with someone I do not know who was very angry with me. I had attempted to explain my history and background in an effort to illustrate why I approached a certain social problem from a unique perspective. My perspective seemed to cause her great distress! When I mentioned that I had healed myself of three different diseases and that this journey created this new perspective, she shot back that she “knew all about self-healing” as her husband had done specific back exercises with great success. While I understood her point, I could only note the deep anger that was being held within this woman who may know all there is to know about self-healing from her husband's perspective, but has no idea about releasing that energy from her own body, mind and spirit..

I was profoundly sad for her because I knew that had she spent any time at all on her own spiritual healing, she would have released the anger she carried within herself and used toward others when it was unnecessary to do so. When we target others with our own anger, we usually end up causing ourselves far more distress than we cause the other person. The negativity of this anger leaves us momentarily thereby giving us a false sense of release and then returns to us exponentially larger as it now carries with it the negativity from the person it was directed towards as well as any stray dark energy it gathered from the collective unconscious while on its journey.

Releasing toxic energy from our bodies is the only way to be sure that we no longer will suffer the ill effects of its toxicity. This is what true healing is all about. Releasing this negative energy and allowing the body to come back to balance and restore itself from “dis-ease” to ease and wholeness.

Lastly, I want to address the many requests I receive from individuals who would like me to solve a painful problem in one email. While true healing and profound enlightenment can and often does happen in an instant, the process leading up to that instant involves time. We live in a world that provides us instant access to almost everything and unfortunately, this has led us to believe that anything that takes time is boring, unworthy or outdated. Spiritual growth and healing of the body, mind and spirit is not a destination but an exciting lifelong journey that should be treated with great reverence, not as a download or update of software. If you find someone who is willing to give you instant advice without taking into account how you arrived at the problem you are now facing, you have cheated yourself of some important learning; this is invaluable information which might possibly prevent you from more searing pain in the future. Anytime we do not learn our lessons from one experience, we become destined to repeat the lesson with higher stakes in the future!

There is a process to doing this and all of us who work with clients probably approach the journey in very different ways. The main concern is that you are on your own journey towards healing and wholeness and not walking the path of your healer; he or she has done his/her own journey and should not need you to validate it. Be prepared that deep healing is not always comfortable, easy or quick. It is not about you receiving only nurturing; is is only about you becoming whole again. Growth is often painful but oh, so worth it!!! As my wonderful and enlightened friend would say, “Happy Healing!”




Lynn Walker

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11 comments:

Indu said...

Hey!!

Nice pics and great stuff from Lynn..

I was wondering what you do when, what you believe in is may conflicting with what you learn or taught??

Tough Cookie said...

Hi, Indu! I wrote you an e-mail answering your question. Thanks for reading!

Lauren said...

Hi Lovey, LOVE the pics.. I think I should print out your bikini bod after I give birth as a motivator! ;) You look beautiful!

Good stuff from Lynn, very interesting. Thank you! XO

Tough Cookie said...

Awww, thank you, Lauren!!!!! That is called the "I've wasted away because RSD doesn't let me get off the couch to exercise" body. It would be nice to have more muscles, but alas, I am who I am right now. And I think I am beautiful :-) And I think you are beautiful, too!

peacemama67 said...

Love your comment opener (eat your green veggies!)

What Lynn said was right on. I have mental conditions (bipolar II and a few more) that I've lived with my whole life. Going through a healing crisis of identifying the source, then going deeply into the pain, helped a lot. The condition is still there, but I feel calmer, healthier, and more in control. Thank you for posting her article!

Your baby is too-die-for cute! :.)

Lynn Walker said...

Indu and everyone...ultimately, you are the Co-CREATOR of your own life with Source, God, Creator (whatever your higher power is). Therefore, what you believe, in conjunction with Source, is what becomes TRUTH for you.

Now, I always encourage people have a moral code that is NOT based in emotion because emotion changes. That is why the Ten Commandments were handed down..so when everything was hitting the fan, people had a guide for what to do.

We all need this, but it is up to us to create this with our God or our Higher Power and then LIVE it daily..not just when we remember it!

Then you will find that you can gracefully allow others to be whoever they need to be (even if they don't match up with who you are) while you stay on your path of Co-Creating in your own truth.

If we could be this tolerant because we know and love ourselves so much, life would be so different. But tolerance comes from the security of living and knowing your own truth based in your connection with Source/God/Creator.

Namaste, Lynn

All American Girl said...

My previous suitemate could use this advice. I only lived with her for a semester since I couldnt take her partying to cover up her depression issues. She would intentionally claim that I did something to her or another girl we lived with. I was happy that I got out when I did cause I heard she spirrled down even further than when I lived there.
She had been seeing a therapist for years and was on medication also. Even though I have RSD Ive never had to see anyone (just for my SCS implant). I dont know if its due to genetics or what. Thanks Maria and Lynn or the post.

:-)

Tough Cookie said...

Hi, peacemama! Great to hear from you! Thank you for reading. I really admire your strength, courage, and honesty. Thank you so much for sharing. Sending you love and prayers xoxo

Erikka, OMG! I had a similar situation happen to me! Gotta love your first few roommate experiences. Glad you got out alive!

Rellacafa said...

SO SO CUTE!!!!!! Great to see you getting to enjoy some fun in the sun, that's about my favourite place to have fun! ;P xx

milly said...

Hi Maria,
Just thought i'd mention I went to a presentation by a psychologist on ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) for RSD recently and i found it really helpful. Obviously it doesnt cure the pain but it does provide some helpful strategies to deal with it. You may have already covered this in your studies? Others may find it useful too.

Tough Cookie said...

Hi, milly! That is fabulous! I am so glad it is working for you. Unfortunately, controlling the mind is one of the only ways to conquer this right now.

Hi, caf! Kisses xoxo