Monday, August 8, 2011
The Fundamental Secret to Inner Growth
"If people avoid you, remember, they are not responsible. Something in you makes them avoid you. If people don't want to meet you, if they find excuses to escape from you, remember, they are not responsible. You must be doing something negative to their energy.
If people seek you, if people become friendly immediately, if people feel a certain affinity - even strangers would like to come and sit close to you, would like to hold your hand, would just like to be with you - that means you must be knowingly or unknowingly helping them. Everybody is burdened with great misery, everybody is under great suffering, everybody's heart is hurting. There is much pain.
Atisha says before you can do this with the whole existence, you will have to start first with yourself. This is one of the fundamental secrets of inner growth. You cannot do anything with others that you have not done in the first place with yourself. You can hurt others if you hurt yourself, you will be a pain in the necks of others if you are a pain in the neck to yourself, you can be a blessing to others only if you are a blessing to yourself.
Whatsoever you can do with others, you must have done to yourself before, because that is the only thing that you can share. You can share only that which you have, you cannot share that which you don't have." - Osho